Ideas for the Second Year of Sobriety

Last Updated on Wednesday, 23 May 2012 01:46 Written by Wes Monday, 5 March 2012 04:36

Forum member Happier posted a wonderful response to a member who was wondering what his routine was during the second year of sobriety from porn addiction. Here are his thoughts:

I was addicted since my teens and am now in my 50′s. So, I’ve been addicted for a long time. A few books and magazines was all that was needed way back in those days for p/mb. Supply and types of materials were limited. With the advent of DVDs and then the Internet, along with the growth of those technologies came an increasing access and variety. And, I always an early adopter ;-) jumped at the chance to take advantage of these breakthroughs. The Internet in particular enabled me to act out with little restraint. It was always there, I could download my ‘favorites’, it was mostly free for the taking. And for years, I covered up my addiction through early morning or late night forays. I covered my tracks with pretty good success, but I was not perfect and occasionally was caught. I’m sure this isn’t anything new for readers of this board.

My routine is tied to my motivations to heal. My motivations were driven in part by fear: fear of being caught by colleagues, friends and family and all the consequences that come from being detected: embarrassment, job related issues, exposing others to something they did not want to see, and/or worse. And my motivations were driven by hope: I wanted to live free of fear, to be able to lend my computer to someone else and not worry about history, cookies, temp files, caches, etc. I wanted to live in the present and not in some lust-lala-land where every woman I saw was objectified. Ok…I could say a lot more, but you get the idea.

You can read the rest of his outstanding post by clicking here.


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