No-porn.com falls off of Google

Last Updated on Monday, 22 April 2013 02:05 Written by Wes Monday, 22 April 2013 02:05

It’s been depressing to see this site disappear from the Google search engines. At first, about 6 months ago, we were excluded from the most popular search term, “porn addiction.” And two weeks ago, we disappeared under the second most popular search phrase, “pornography addiction.” We just vanished off the map. Subsequently, people are not finding this site.

If any of you have suggestions, such as posting links to No-porn.com on your blog, or whatever it might be, please let me know. Our visitors are about 20 percent of what they were a year ago. I’m not sure what caused the change, but I am certainly frustrated to see what used to be the most popular site on this topic go extinct.

I appreciate your suggestions. That is, if anyone is out there to read this.

Wes

Removing the Urgency

Last Updated on Sunday, 14 April 2013 02:58 Written by Wes Sunday, 14 April 2013 02:58

Support Forum member MoreToLife posted an interesting comment on the feeling of “urgency” that can accompany the compulsion to act out. This led to several interesting comments, and I thought I’d share PuddleGlum’s post below:

“I think this issue strikes right at the heart of many addictions/compulsive behaviors. The feeling of being off center, out of sync, out of control is so uncomfortable that we become desperate to fix it. We medicate with food or alcohol or drugs or sex or work or (fill in the blank). In my own recent experience in dealing with the pornography I have had times where I felt my mind starting down an unhealthy path and felt that I really did not have any way of adequately reversing this. I suspect that if I was hooked up inside some test tube or lab at this time the instruments would detect a slight increase
in my pulse, a little increased muscle tension and some alteration in brain wave patterns indicating increased vigilance. What I have learned to do, out of a desire to maintain sobriety, is to FREEZE. This is like setting a car into neutral. Mentally/emotionally I’m not going anywhere, but quite significantly I am not continuing on the unfruitful path. This is like a time out. There is no immediate relief of “Whew! That was close!”, the benefits are all delayed.
It is a putting self into cold storage, taking self out of the game, trusting that self will awaken to a more appropriate way of dealing with life. The positive feelings come later when you affirm to self that “Yeah, you avoided that”, more thanksgiving than celebration. ”

By the way, you can read the entire thread by clicking here.

Far from Home

Last Updated on Friday, 1 March 2013 12:19 Written by Wes Friday, 1 March 2013 12:18

I’ve always admired our servicemen and women as they serve our country, spending months, even years, away from family and loved ones. I received an email from another serviceman overseas, thanking me for the copy of Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction that his wife emailed to him after he confessed his addiction to her. After two decades of marriage he finally got caught. Now she was reaching out to help him by sending him a copy of the book.

These men and women are amazing for the service they render and the sacrifices they make. To add a addiction recovery to the mix only makes their efforts more spectacular in my mind!