New Years Resolutions or transformation?

Last Updated on Monday, 11 February 2013 02:26 Written by Wes Wednesday, 2 January 2013 01:03

Those who have read Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction may wonder how New Year’s resolutions apply to recovery. First, I think in our collective consciousness, at least in the U.S., there’s a feeling that New Year’s resolutions are meant to be broken. Secondly, the word resolve itself is a bit loaded. I resolve to change, just seems too insurmountable. Rather than resolve to change, we simply need to transform into something different. Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction walks us straight through the process of transforming. I hope you find it the perfect way to start the new year! I wish you a wonderful 2013.

Thank you!

Last Updated on Wednesday, 23 May 2012 01:45 Written by Wes Friday, 13 April 2012 10:27

I just want to offer my sincere thanks to all of our recent donors to the Support Forum. As always, the support forum is free. But recently, a number of you rallied to support this site by making significant financial contributions. I am still stunned by how quickly we met our goal and grateful for all the encouraging messages of support and gratitude that accompanied your gifts.

If you are new to the forum, welcome. Remember, there are others here who have walked the path ahead of you and who are eager to be of support to you, and to help you experience the joys (and pains) of sobriety.

Just another day without porn.

Last Updated on Tuesday, 20 September 2011 01:39 Written by Wes Friday, 16 September 2011 01:43

Porn addiction loves a good sneak attack. It loves to lure you into thinking you’re all set. You’re past it. There is incredible power in the strategies outlined in Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction, but it is important to practice those strategies on a regular basis. The strategies aren’t time consuming or oppressive, but they outline a way of thinking about your addiction, and about who you are. That’s why the book starts out with the important key: You are not your addiction. But when we start to forget the strategies, and let old thinking patterns return, that’s when we start to find ourselves slipping. A little slip here, a little slip there. It may start with a stray thought about a classmate or colleague. Failing to recognize our addictive voice in that process is dangerous. That stray thought then begins to grow, perhaps slowly at first, until we experience an all out binge. One reason I find our free support forum so valuable is that it helps us remember every day to identify those thoughts that are fueled by our addiction. I find it so incredible that as soon as I acknowledge my addictive voice (“the Beast”), my addictive thinking retreats. So, this little post is just to help remind us all to keep up the sober thinking, and to recognize each pornographic thought and lust as your addictive voice, and to review frequently the principles in Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction.